Good news like someone getting what they wished for is scarce in everyday life, so this one can probably be considered offbeat. It looks like a piece of my humble advice bore fruit, which was by no means a sure bet.
A girl I’ve known for some time now had had a 5-year relationship with her boyfriend and started to fret that he was just stringing her along as the whole thing was rather bogged down.
They belonged to different social classes and his mother — the same old story — didn’t approve of her son’s choice to the point that on one occasion, when due to couple’s bad timing she happened to be at her son’s right when the girl, let’s call her Susan, showed up, she looked her square in the eye and said bluntly, ‘There is no point in beating about the bush, so I’ll give it to you straight: you are a slut and I want you out of my house!’ Credit where it's due – she is indeed a straightforward, sincere woman. All the hell could have broken loose as Susan can give as good as she gets, but she wisely made herself scarce.
|Tug-of-war or tug of love?|
For some inexplicable reason Susan claimed she still had feelings for him and couldn’t bring herself to let him go. She hoped to marry him some day (my guess is not having better options, a drive to reproduce, body clock playing up, and an urge to get herself a home also contributed to the affection), though the affair started to hurt her pride (about time!).
Prince charming, on the other hand, was in no hurry at all. Why would he be? He had all the comforts of married life with no strings attached. Conversely, some women just can’t wait to put on shackles, although admittedly all the paraphernalia of wedding has a very wide appeal.
Lately, Susan was in doldrums most of the time, maundering on about his somewhat indifferent attitude towards her, and then it hit me there might be a way to find a crack in his skull for the idea of marriage to get in by.
(© Luc Viatour GFDL/CC )
Which one is more likely to catch your eye?
|(Blackbird female by Andreas Trepte)|
The next point was a bit more delicate. I don’t mean to pontificate, but why would anyone pay for a freebie? I don’t usually approve of running after a bloke, I think it’s denigrating for women, but if that’s what makes her happy... Basic psychology says people don’t usually care much about what is easy to get or is always available. Instead, if someone else wants it they immediately need it too.
I asked Susan to describe the guy (what he was like and what he looked like) so that we (I and my friends) could profile him and figure out what kind of personality we were dealing with (I wonder how many, if any, men of today are worth going to so much trouble).
Want to keep someone? — let him go. Make them think, but don’t make out you can get along without them or have met somebody else. The plan of course could backfire, but you know what they say: nothing venture, nothing have. Besides, it’s a win-win situation — whatever the result you’ll be moving on soon.
There hasn’t been closure to some threads in the story yet, such as his mummy’s will.
Well, we’ll just have to wait and see.